Becoming suddenly single can have further implications on your very survival. A recent review of over 148 studies and surveys on social isolation found that those in Social Isolation (such as your losing all your married friends which is typical with divorce) can be as harmful to your health and overall life expectancy as smoking, alcoholism, lack of exercise, or obesity.

 

The review of 148 studies, people with strong social ties had a 50% higher chance of survival than people with weak social connections.

To Improve your survival we suggest getting out and learning (practice) how to develop a whole network of single friends, both sexes. After years of married you probably are out of practice of meeting people.

 

Most newly singled think they have to go out in dating mode or stay isolated. Nothing could be further from the truth. Many are not advanced to that point and in fact most newly divorced are not.

 

Dating adds further complications that can overwhelm you in early stages. You need to initially develop a whole new “singles family” of friends to replace your old network of married friends, now mostly lost or unable to relate to you.

 

To do that, you need to go to things where other singles go. Many church groups have single events etc. You will have to scout out your own best places locally to get acquainted and develop single friends and acquaintances

 

My suggestion, every person that is single you meet at anything, ask “where do you go to hang out with and meet other singles?” All will know a few places they go. Soon you will have lots of suggestions to try.

 

If you are pressured by anyone you meet to start dating, simple solution, just say “I am not ready for that yet.” “I will let you know when I am.”

 

Remember you need single friends of both sexes. When you are ready for dating later, let me tell you the most successful dates you go on will be as a result of and leads from your network of single friend support system you developed when not yet ready for dating.

 

You just cannot have too many single friends and acquaintances. You will get invited to parties, etc., and places where you will rapidly develop more new single friends and acquaintances.

At singles events you attend, can, for example, invite many of the most interesting people over for a backyard weiner roast after the event, etc., at your place.

 

Get better acquainted. Soon you will be invited to social things.

 

Self-defense for survival: Seek out company with as many other singles as possible-especially if you are newly divorced. You likely feel very isolated.

 

Remember: What you are doing is developing a new “singles” family of friends. Get out and practice doing so. That’s how you get good at it…..practice.

 

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